I completely get your point, it's why I'm usually cool on the following. I think another poster nailed it that it's not necessarily the fans themselves, but their ages. Our age gap is weird enough, I think ogling fans with an age gap to yourself too is also a bit weird for me. But I'll discuss that with him tomorrow. However, from stating the following is normal, then honestly you've reassured me so thank you, haha.

I would take off the jealousy (although I can see why you'd say it, don't worry), but I would agree on the insecurity. Not jealous of the girls because it's not their fault, but I think it's their ages that makes me more insecure on being in a relationship with an older man.

You have brought up a fantastic point on the Tinder thing. It probably sounds like I under-reacted, it's just because I'm writing a past thing, but I definitely think how that made me feel has resurfaced a lot, and that's something I should definitely deal with, and maybe see if it's something I think actually worth dealing with. I agree that that's probably what's making me more upset, I guess maybe I'm looking out for signs (a bit too much) that he'll do it again. So the following issue was a bit excessive! But honestly, I needed to hear it!

Thanks so much for your comment, it's given me plenty to think about. And also for reading all that waffle! It's appreciated. :)