OP, I feel similarly to /u/EvelynGarnet and /u/Nora_Oie. Something about reading your post, and most of your comments, feels empty. Then sometimes there's a bit of a breakthrough, like here:

My interests ?

web design, English...

It's almost like you've created this "you" that's all polished and tidy and shiny, and everything you've been told women want. The identity you put forth in this post is based on relationship dealbreakers-- employment status, level of ambition in life, cigarette smoking, use of porn, personal upkeep, etc.-- instead of actual personal interests, preferences, and opinions. You have become the opposite of things people have been known to reject in relationships, and seem to be under the impression that this is all you need to do in order to connect with someone, or progress to dating them. You come across as startled to be asked about the things that actually make you you.

Speaking for myself, and the people I know in life, no one I've known has ever wanted to just date "a man". Different people want to date different types of people, just as other commenters have described in the thread. One of my friends might be looking for an outdoorsy type who likes both dogs and cats, and that might be more important to her than where he is in his career. Another friend might find that agreeing on social and political issues is paramount to any other relationship preferences. Another might find it nearly intolerable to date someone with a conflicting taste in music.

Just examples, of course; my point being that everyone is different, just as you are different from the other men in the world. You are failing at finding "a woman" because you're playing "a man", as opposed to yourself, while searching for someone who isn't even a real person.

That comment with your interests, that was the one time it felt like I was reading a response from the real you.

I hope all that made sense.