I agree with you completely.

As a guy in a long-term, long distance relationship, I get so lonely sometimes. So lonely. I get that I can make friends but the intimacy is not there. I get incredibly sad when she barely texts me one day or we don't talk the other. I want to hear her voice....

Now, fit my situation with a guy who has taken a liking for another, closer lady. Clearly, he would not be seeking this other lady if there were issues in his relationship. I am not saying it is right, but perhaps he was indecisive or did not want to hurt Lindsey (ironic, eh?).

But in the end, irregardless of the child, he picked the OP. He could have ran. He could have helped raise the child while being single. No, he picked the OP.

As for the lack of "I love you" , this does not mean he does not love you. I used to not say it often to my lady because I was scared that the word would become overused and lose meaning.

OP, I would suggest talking to him. The other posters suggestions of "go on a date and fall in love 'for the first time'" is rubbish. He fell for you. That is what led to this current situation. Just talk to him. Go on a date. Do something romantic. He may feel like shit for cheating right now. It was awful what he did, but that is in the past now. All that matters is his future conduct.