OP, you are getting some flack here, and I feel bad for you. People are saying a lot of negative stuff about you choosing to be a military spouse and needing to just stick with it, and how you knew what you were getting into. I am just going to say,no. Unfortunately, sometimes military spouses get a bad rap. Sometimes it is earned, sometimes it is not. From what you said, you are trying and he doesn't care.

My husband is career military. We met when he was stationed overseas, and I had a job in that country. My job threatens to not pay me. My then fiancé/now husband at the time had my back and helped me fight for the money. Now we are in another country again, and he has bent over backwards to help me get a work visa when I said I wanted to keep working. Whenever I have wanted to sign up for a class, he has helped me. My dad is a Vietnam vet, and has always been encouraging of my mother and his kids to continue education. I have met many other military spouses who work and/or go to school. And guess what? The person in the military usually encourages it, if for no other reason than, hey, more money. My point is, from my own personal experience and what I have seen around me, it is not normal to force your spouse to stay home all day. Especially not if you are struggling financially. Usually, you would WANT them to work. If anything, I have heard more complaints about spouses NOT working outside the home, so this is a bit odd.

You mentioned nursing, are you aware it is a really difficult degree? I am not saying this in a patronizing way, I just mean it is a serious endeavor. You have to be committed to it fully, and you will need help with your kids. It will definitely make things easier and you can concentrate on school. If he is not going to help, maybe you should go be with your family? It is just weird that he would rather send his kids to another part of the country, rather than dropping them off at daycare sometimes. This sounds like there is way more going on here. Maybe tall could start with marriage counseling and go from there? If he is even open to it, that is. That might be a problem. Good luck!