this is a very hard issue. i had to go through something similar (well.. the heartache, i mean) with a girlfriend just over a year ago now and i still have thoughts of her from time to time. things were so great with her at the start. but from time to time there would be miscommunications. then as the relationship went on, those miscommunications increased. but that just made me want to work harder, to communicate clearer, and to make things work, because i loved her so much. i didnt ever want to break up with her. unfortunately, she did want to break up with me. after an argument one day she said "i just want to be happy again"... it broke my heart... because it was clear that i was no longer making her happy. right then and there, i guess i kinda knew what was in store. i knew something was going on in her head. about a week later she was upset about something i didnt understand and in the end just simply said she was "done" over the phone... i never got to talk to her again. we had dated for 2 years. the amount of bitterness i felt, i cant even describe. how could that be the way a 2 year relationship ends??

but i think im getting away from my point. my point being that there is no cure for heartache except Time. that breakup happened a year ago now and i still feel sad, confused and bitter from time to time, but i am definitely better than i first was after it had happened. just dont drink away ur pain.. thats no cure at all. allow yourself to feel ur feelings, its healthy to do that. dont bottle anything up. analyze yourself, analyze what u think might have gone wrong or what u could do differently next time. it makes you stronger and wiser in the end.

hopefully i helped. hopefully i didnt just spout off about something unrelated and miss the point of your post. in any case, i know this post is like 3 months old now, but i hope you are feeling better.