Sometimes... People say stupid things.

I gave had a terrible pregnancy. While I know there are worse pregnancy symptoms, I have been so exhausted as to be unable to take care of myself/think straight. I cannot walk more than a few feet, and some days I haven't even been able to get undressed for bed on my own or walk to the toilet on my own, and breathing becomes a laborious struggle. My husband now exclusively works at home to take care of me and he takes care of all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the dog, financials, phone calls, etc.

When I told my mother-in-law that despite all this I really want more than one child and some days I think I could do this again, and some days I think I can't she said "But do you really think you should? This is too hard on husband."

After realizing what she said, she gracefully added a few seconds later, "But maybe it's not my business" and I said "No, probably not," quite absentmindedly, and changed the subject. But I was incredibly upset and angry that she could say that for days afterwards (even though I tried so hard to let it go at the time). It wasn't until I told my husband what she said quite a few days later that I was able to let it go.

I hope your mother-in-law just made a stupid mistake based off of a bad experience she had. Maybe she was trying to save you the same heartbreak she had...

But still, man, it's a stupid thing to say! I completely understand why you would be so upset! Even if she had a "reason" it's a really thoughtless thing to say!