No. I think I got a bit long-winded. Sorry about that.

I think that right now the problem is probably pretty early and with the right steps, they might be able to either reign it in or get him some help with expressing himself better. But if it were to continue: the isolation, no help from a therapist, not really stepping in to help him the right way... then I think the behavior will come out more in school.

Right now the kid is pretty young and a lot of teachers assume behavior problems, if they don't happen consistently, are due to age. I have had kids who, while in my class, punched kids almost every day. But then the next year, their teacher would say how well behaved they are. So a lot of the time, when we report problems we have with student's behaviors, we have to take into consideration age as a possible factor.

So, it is likely that it is either his age that causes this behavior or his environment. So it might not come out in class, because he doesn't have the same issues. But if it works at home and no one really corrects it, then it sure as the sun is going to show up at school. Mabe not consistently, every day, but when he meets a similar situation what works will be done.

And if a student showed consistent behavior like the ones Op is describing, which is asking to be hurt, trying to hurt himself, threatening to hurt himself, hurting other people, and having constant melt-downs... we would be reporting it to the principal/director, writing it down in a notebook, and talking to the parents.

This is just from my own personal experience with kids who behaved in similar ways. They also had either a trauma in the family [a recent death or illness] or their parents didn't let them interact with other kids that much, so they lost a lot of the social interaction and expectations of their peers.

Heck, we had a girl come into my daycare the other day, who screamed bloody murder the whole time she was there. You couldn't get her to stop unless you held her and that's impossible with all those kids. Took her three days to calm down. Turns out dad and mom didn't really have her around other children that much, she is an only child, and they don't "discipline" her at all.

She is doing okay, though she doesn't have a lot of verbal communications. So while her parents are lovely people, doing what they and Op's parents are doing kills a kids ability to socialize a lot of the time and makes them lash out.