This doesn't really apply, mostly because he isn't lazy and he definitely does stuff to help. It's just not the stuff that needs to be prioritized. For instance, that AC needs to be fixed before baby gets here because it isn't allowing cold air to go up to our second floor where the bedrooms are, but instead he's gonna go to the store to get stuff to fix the porch light. Which is great and helpful and all, but it just isn't what is pressing at the moment. If he does do baby stuff, it's minor and it takes him forever to get up to do. I have definitely pulled more weight around the house, but he works 48+ hours a week while 1) I worked about half that much before I was on maternity leave and 2) now that I'm on maternity leave, I work zero hours. Obviously I'm going to pull more weight around the house, we had a pretty good dispersal of responsibility that worked for us. You've got the scenario very very off, he's productive and hard working. I just have no idea how to get him to channel that work ethic into the stuff that needs to get done, not the stuff that he's gotten used to doing while we've lived together for the past 6 years. Does that make sense?