He was not supposed to be there at all last night, he had gone back to his dad's for the night. After she left for work, and I went back to sleep he called me like fifteen times, and my phone was not on ring, after not receiving any answer, he decided to come back home at 5 in the morning.

I specifically had asked before she came over if it was okay to do so. I just hadn't asked about her spending the night, because I honestly didn't expect her to, and didn't think it was a big enough deal to text him about it when I could just have told him today.

No he does not reap any benefits, he was the one who wanted to get back together and I said I wanted to be able to date girls and was not originally going to get back with him, he promised me that it was okay, because he didn't want to hold my sexuality back.

He has ignored me on countless occasions in the past, and I am not using that to justify my answer, but do not appreciate the double standard he is setting here, like I could be out with my mom and he will be mad at me for not texting him back. I see my mom maybe once or twice a year because she lives quite far from me.

He claims he wants to be with me, but he seems to be finding any excuse to keep me as the bad guy. ( I suffer from borderline personality disorder, and there are a lot of fights that come from this). I'm trying my hardest to get solid ground under my feet, and i personally believe he does not know how to deal with the postive change in me.

Biggest thing, he had told me it was okay, and if I cannot have a girls night, regardless of what is happening or not happening, then I do see much hope in the relationship, I have no friends as is.