3. My (31M) wife (30F) of 8 years has been spending more and more time with her coa...

My (31M) wife (30F) of 8 years has been spending more and more time with her coach and best friend (36M) who is also married. I'm having a hard time adapting to this new dynamic, and I'm in search of insights to help me cope.

I'll be the first to say that I have a few male best friends and those relationships all provide me things that my SO doesn't. It's not because they're a threat to my SO, but I recognize that my SO can't literally be my everything. That said, if they were girls, it wouldn't be any different (ie I'm not their friends because they're guys). I know it's weird to others to have so many close guy friends but it's just the way my life worked out.

But all that said, if I started spending all my leisure time with one man that wasn't my SO, I know I'd be acting inappropriate even if it meant nothing. If I value my SO, I should want to be around him, right? It just makes sense. It sounds like your SO is putting your relationship in second place and that's not okay. It IS okay for her to have a male best friend, but not at the expense of your relationship. If there's no time left for you and your relationship in the day, the balance is way, way off.

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