My son's potential education choices are kind of a big f-in' deal.

I've thought about moving for a few years and then returning when he gets to high school, and brought that up to my boyfriend. The response was...not positive.

And then there's everything else we'd be giving up. We'd be moving from a big city where we live in an amazing house with the world at our fingertips to a crummy house in the suburbs where we'd be spending every last penny on our living expenses. Way less travel, way less money to do things for fun like join clubs/organizations, join a gym, whatever.

We see my family about as often as we see his. His is a 2 hour plane ride away, mine is a 4 hour drive. My parents are in retirement and out traveling a good chunk of the year, his are always home and still working (hmm...that couldn't be do to living expenses). He's been here almost a decade, he has as many friends here as I do. So it's not really about me staying close to my family and friends while he has nothing here.

I just don't think it's good for our family. I think we'd be giving up way, way too much. I'm thinking about the future and our quality of life. Hell, we can afford to go the mountains for 3 weeks every summer now, and honestly, if I pulled a few strings at work, I'm sure we could go for a whole month or longer. He can say good-bye to that if we move, we'd have no money.