I can see where you're coming from with that. I sometimes feel that these groups are similar to online reviews, where you only hear from people who are wildly dissatisfied. Likewise, you hear from SOs who've had extremely traumatic relationships with a bipolar partner. In reality, we're not all like that. I think there's both good and bad in a bipolar SO being in this sub. On one hand, you may see things and it may give you some insight or appreciation on what we go through and how hard we do try to manage our illness and function in healthy relationships. None of us want to be toxic or abusive. On the other hand, you might see things that are triggering, or things that don't and haven't applied to your situation but give you anxiety as something that could potentially occur. This sub, and other subs intended for people actually diagnosed with bipolar disorder, are supposed to be a safe space for us.