During the summer, after about one month of dates, kissing like crazy, and going down on her, I received little-to-nothing sexual in return. We talked about it and she said she kept rejecting my advances because she was in an abusive relationship for a long time, and that she would get better.

You knew what you were getting into one month in.

Fast forward 5 months and we had finally had vanilla, boring sex a couple times,

Sounds like she made progress.

but I started a fight over the otherwise constant rejections and she broke up with me, but came back on her own after a couple days.

Should have stayed broken up, sounds like you don't have realistic expectations for this relationship and for someone recovering from abuse, you seem quite self-centered and eager to string her along for your own benefit.

She is also not that attractive and our personalities don’t match up as well as my last gf.

How did you even end up with this girl, out of desperation?

But she says I’m super attractive and the most important thing in her life, hence she is good for me emotionally.

Does this girl matter at all? Because it sounds like the only thing you care about is you. This post is just a huge heap of MeMeMe.