My SO is a healthcare worker who has neglected herself lately, what can I do?

It depends. Keeping score in a relationship can be problematic, but it seems more like you're concerned that your love language can be problematic moreso than she isn't spending an equal dollar to dollar amount. Is that what going on?

If so, the best thing you can do is be honest and talk about it. Discuss love languages and his how it's your primary one. That you care more about the gesture than the value. If she still doesn't reciprocate, then you can't force her to do it. Some people just aren't very good gift givers and if that's an issue then that's a whole different conversation that you need to have starting with yourself to see if you're still happy in the relationship overall. Best of luck

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