Couple, stated unilaterally without consultation that there wouldn't be a bachelor/ette party and that they were doing an engagementmoon to Disney.

By the time the wedding rolled around I, as best man, was fighting hard to whip up support for anything from the groomsmen. This was regarded as a betrayal. There were unsavory things said about the bride, and we dealt with too much drama that would have been curbed by a Friday night out.

Sounds more like the bride and groom decided that the wedding party was full of assholes. Unsavory things said about the bride and drama is your problem not theirs. Your experience is not the OPs experience. Good of you to come in and shit up their happy place.