I mean only you know what your infidelity ‘line in the sand’ is.

If this has truly broken your heart and if you can’t ever trust her again then do it all in and get time to yourself to heal.

I’ll give you some advice I had many many years ago, before I found out a long term affair had been going on under my nose but I knew the relationship was broken, ‘think about what you’re going to do next. Really really think about it.’

That saved me, as if I’d been dumped before that advice I’d have been absolutely floored. Instead I checked out flats I could rent, checked the lease, checked out everything I could and mentally separated myself (‘what will my friends say? What will my family say? Do I go home for a bit?’) and then we calmly broke things off. Then I had the news that she’d been banging someone for the last nine months and I was so mentally prepared instead of blowing up (I was absolutely devastated) I kept thinking ‘stick to the plan.’