I think the only way is divorce. Your wife and your family is being too hard on you and don’t respect what you want. Having children is not something like having a picture on the wall your wife likes but you don’t. It’s a major decision that will change your whole life and you should want it 100%. If you start a family unwillingly, you will feel unhappy all the time and it will also be bad for the child.

I also think it’s mean that your wife treats you like that for something you want. She doesn’t respect want you want at all and thinks only about herself(not even about the child). If your family starts talking about being selfish, look at her! If my husband didn’t want children, I wouldn’t want to force him into it. If you can’t live like you want with your partner, the only way is divorce. But your wife shouldn’t think bad about you because of this. She knew that was what you want from the start, you never lied to her about this. She is in the wrong to hold hard feelings for you.

Your relationship won’t work out anymore and as I said, the only way is divorce. You will have to talk about her in a calm way, that it can’t workout anymore. You can tell her the reason why you can’t have children against your will with the reason above. Tell her that you wish her the best for the future and that you hope she doesn’t think bad about you because of this.

If she does think bad of you, that’s not your fault. If she really loves you and respects you, she will respect your decision and should want, what’s best for you.

I hope this can help you.