Need somebody to talk to about gf (27F) being CF (27M)

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Need somebody to talk to about gf (27F) being CF (27M)

I would recommend you both read the following:

Making the Choice:

1.Balanced discussion on Struggling with ChildFree Choice and Regret:
[Dear Sugar PodCast, Episode 5, starting at 19:50] http://www.wbur.org/2015/02/28/dear-sugar-episode-five

2.And this is a very good quote:

"I can tell you that you are going to have regret no matter what you decide," Merle said. She explained that if your child is screaming at 3 a.m. and you didn't get to go to your favorite concert because the baby sitter was sick, you are going to regret your decision, and if you're childfree and you are watching a movie about a compelling child-parent relationship, you will think you're missing something.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5002803

(Possible regret would be only for fence sitters, not early articulators)

3.There is no bio clock and

"[T]he Brases found that positive exposure to babies (ones that coo and smile and smell nice) made people want to have kids, while negative exposure (crying, stinky infants) made people shy away from the idea of parenthood. Another factor they considered involved the inevitable trade-offs involved in having children — less time, less money and less freedom to do what you want, when you want."

http://healthland.time.com/2011/09/06/baby-fever-the-desire-to-procreate-is-not-just-for-women/

4.Have her make a pro / Con list (less time and Freedom (no spontaneous dinner or shows out), cost at least $250,000 before college, daycare cost or leave her job, damage to her body (torn vagina, cracked nipples), etc.

Parents (some former Childfree) regret about their kids:

http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/201prv/reporting_back_from_the_other_side/

http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/1t2y8j/wondering_if_a_child_free_so_can_make_it_work/

http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/2wkkda/hi_rchildfree_i_was_childfree_until_a_couple/

http://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/2seiqn/i_hate_my_life_as_a_mom/

http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/17ny5y/stay_strong_childfree_do_not_be_convinced_into/

http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/2icq7c/im_a_father/ Background: http://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/2hifvn/pale_skies_and_greyed_out_fields/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/christine-stockton/2014/07/parents-explain-what-they-regret-about-having-children/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1376681/I-resent-children-stealing-wifes-love.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html

http://thestir.cafemom.com/toddler/168247/man_who_regrets_his_three

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jul/19/what-really-thinking-reluctant-dad