NGVC: " Why are good guys considered assholes?"

Thankyousm for the detailed response. Also, congrats! I really admire that.

Haha the feelings are actually too strong, the friendship thing isn't gonna work out, in the back of my mind I would always wonder if I have a chance, which is not being just towards her at all. I have a plenty of really close friends already, I just don't feel the need to put in the effort for another one.

I am fully aware it's my own feelings that hurt me, I know this because I don't even envision a relationship with her in the long term, it just hurts my ego that she doesn't look at me the same way. (Hey, I can't control what I feel, but I can control how I act, the other person is the least of my concerns here, the only person I am up against is myself).

I have already made it clear before. She has invited me to her place day after tomorrow, I'll make it clear to her one final time, ... And then I guess, ghosting is the last resort. It's good for the both of us.

The only reason I was confused, concerned and looking for other opinions was bcos the seperation is going to really hurt her, and I am too fond of her to let that happen.

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