I fee so identified with you as I’m going through the same thing. All the signs and symptoms are from a person with borderline personality disorder. It is funny and impressive how weak we can be when you love and care for a person. These type of people usually rant and tell you so many nasty things when they are angry that you just have to stay speechless. Then the day passes and they expect things to go back to normal. You will always be the problem and will be guilty for everything. They won’t recognize when they are wrong, and if they do they will find a way to twist it and make you feel guilty about it. It is insane the rollercoaster of emotions and shit you go through with a person like this. Everything you say is wrong, or they have a negative comment to it, or you are too dumb to know how to do/take care of things. They project on you their problems, illness (anxiety, depression, etc), they make you think you are damaged. I hate the fact that I know all these behaviours and where they come from and I’m still there for that person. Still loving her and caring for her...hoping that one day things change or that she will seek for help or that she recognizes she is the problem. I’ve never had to deal with any of these things in past relationships and somehow she made me think I was damaged and had all these problems...your self-confidence and esteem goes down a bunch. All I can say is to stay strong, try to avoid all contact...it is very hard and they always find a way to sneak in again. All the best brother and I’ll try to apply all of this in my life as well to see if I can move past her.