Okay, but help me out... How is this not just... Idk. Abuse on its face? One of the chicks I saw on an overwhelming deep dive of the internet today showed a picture of her face and it looked like she had been beaten up in an MMA fight. But the caption was, "daddy made me pretty".

I suppose I can accept the fact I'll never understand, but I have to think that is straight up abuse. The fact she likes it should make it okay? There was a dude who went on a fet forum about his wish to be canabalised. Should it at some point be out of the sub's hands and we should assume the dom knows better?

Say they have a sexual interest in being suffocated to death. Does that mean it is now okay for the other to do that? I realise this is an extreme, but getting the shit beaten out of you for sexual pleasure disturbs me also, and doesn't seem far from escalation.