Hey, thanks for the observation.
He and I both made excited utterances.
His left him appearing to blame the victim.
I got caught up in that rabbit hole, of almost fighting for the victim.
My original intent was to point it out there were 2,ways to say it... one supported the victim (more that cursing out the abuser) and the other made him appear to blame the victim.
I was swirling the rabbit hole drain, I'll admit that. I was trying to trying to get back on an even keel. I wasn't trying to blame him yet that was how it came out.
I get that he didn't mean it like it came out. Read our continued exchanges.
I was trying to make the point that there's another way to ask that question that doesn't make him look like he's blaming the victim.
As for the mental health aspect...
I was sexually abused as a child. Studies show that sexual abuse victims often go on the be abused later in life, and I can attest to that.
Additionally, someone tried to kill me because I was helping a sick old man, with poly-chemical withdrawal. Just becausecI'm white and he wasn't
(For the record, he asked for the help)
It was a gang attack, with the odds being 8'9/1 their favour. I've been blamed, plenty, for being the victim. So