You just need to love yourself first before anyone else will see you as worth loving.

I think you’ll not find your message to resonate with many. A word of warning beforehand; I have never been in a relationship, so my analogy may not work. But it is the best I can do.

Imagine if a friend one day said that you should get back together with an ex. That he or she is actually a pretty great person and that you were great together, and they don’t really get why you broke up with them in the first place.

You know the friend means well. And maybe from where he stood, maybe the ex looks like a decent. And now your friend is saying you just need do is love her again. But every time you see her, all you see is a all of the times that she disappointed you. All of the times that she let you down. All the grief and sleepless nights that she caused. All you feel now is a smoldering hatred for her. And now after so long, you can’t imagine why you ever cared about her in the first place. You can’t remember a single good moment spent; not one minute, not even one second.

Tell me, would you honestly try to bring yourself to love that ex again, even with all of that emotional baggage and the knowledge that she will disappoint you again and again?

Now imagine that you and the ex are the same person. Perhaps the friend is right... but deep down you can't bring yourself to love yourself, because deep down, you can't bring yourself to believe that you deserves anything but hatred and contempt.

Again... apologies if this makes little sense to you. And there's a very good chance I'm merely projecting, but it's all I can add to this conversation. I'll delete it if you think it's not helping.