3. Redditors who have dealt with cognitive dissonance following an abusive relation...

Redditors who have dealt with cognitive dissonance following an abusive relationship, does it ever go away, or even diminish somewhat? Or is chronic indecision just part of life now?

I know logically what I need to do. But then my emotions butt in and fuck everything up. I was twisted up in the punishment/reward cycle for so long that I can't force myself to move forward without being like...hold up, are you sure? And I'm usually not sure at all.

I don't trust myself to carry through with a solidly good decision because my emotions cause me to dissect every tiny seed of logic my brain tries to churn out. Then my brain tries to shove all the emotional bullshit aside and analyze it until I get so pissed off, I don't even know what's going on.

I'm exhausted from undermining my own ability to make decisions then second guessing everything to death because fucking FEELS. It sucks so hard!

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