wtf honestly your response is pretty nasty. How do YOU know that she knew that? She was the one in the relationship, not you.

My experience is not the end all be all but honestly I lived that life. My ex would ask me to do things that I was CLEARLY not into. Like, "ew no I would never do that." others may have been, "Maybe, but probably not any time soon. Like maybe in a few years haha. Oh, but that other thing that we already talked about? NEVER EVER."

Still others were, "I don't feel comfortable or ready to do that. I have to think about it. I'll get back to y-- NO I STILL DONT WANT TO DO THAT THING STOP ASKING".

These requests, pestering, guilt tripping, basically forcing it on me during sex and testing me if i would say no while he was in the middle of doing "Thing I Don't Want to Do"--Those are acts of control. And I was very clear. And I'm sure this girl was clear too.

Honestly it kind of upsets me how dismissive you are of OP's story. You don't know what she lived. And judging from her story it seems like my ex and her ex are two birds of a feather; clear communication doesn't matter only saying "yes" does. AKA exerting his will over hers. Control. Domination.