I met my friend of 5 years when we worked together at a grocery store. I was with my ex at the time in a relationship based only on sex, but was on my way out. Meeting her changed my life!
I remember first seeing her.. she was and still is is so beautiful! I remember seeing her, liking her style, and just thinking I wanted to be her friend. We hit it off and became close super fast.
I soon broke up with that loser and we did the cliche single girls thing-- went out, met guys, got messed up. But we also spent a lot of time having deep talks together, listening to music, cooking, doing a lot of actual friend stuff. not just girl friends that got fucked up together and made stupid decisions.
She was there for me when I went thru that breakup. The loser guy ended up cheating on me with two of my other best friends and hid it for over 2 yrs! So I was pretty turned around on who I could trust and I thought for sure she was my BFF.
And then I needed a place to live. There was a group of 5 guys that all lived together in a frat-style house and a room was opening up. These were some hs friends of hers that I only knew of and hadn't really known all that well. I was desperate and was not afraid of living in a major bachelor pad so I set it up that I would move in.
There was this one guy tho... they had been friends since hs and always had chemistry. They hadn't ever hooked up or anything. But she always had to have him on the back burner and always had a thought in her mind, "what if?" But he was kind of shy, and she being so beautiful always got attention and was always dating other guys around him. She even dated his roommate for over a year and dated/hooked up w other guys in his circle.
When I was going to move in she freaked out and basically said this guy was "off limits". She voice of reason in me was like "obviously I am not going to hook up w him.. he's going to be my roommate" and she was reluctant about the situation but knew I was desperate. I wasn't really worried about it because this guy wasn't my type, and I already knew they had a chemistry so I wasn't interested.
I moved in and began to hang out w dude as friends and roommates... like going to dinner w the whole house and just being social. This house was like a frat house-- always people coming thru and lots of shenanigans. I'd invite her to hang out and always include her.. but dude and I started to get close. A few months go by and i begin to develop feelings for him... surprise! I tried to fight it and didn't expect it coming because I didn't even find myself really attracted to him. Not that he's not attractive but he just wasn't my type physically.. but something about his personality and humor, and I could be myself 100% w him cuz I never once "tried " to impress him.
Finally one night dude kissed me. And I was like "fuck.." so before anything progressed I told her and essentially asked for her permission. She freaked out and was pissed that he never tried to kiss her and essentially kicked me out of her house. I kissed her but for about two weeks after and did everything I could to show my apologies and make her feel better. Eventually she came thru and gave her support.
But it was never the same since. I tried my best to keep her around and include her but it was never what it was. Even though she was DATING and sleeping with his/our roommate at the time, she still could not let Dude go.
Another roommate from our crazy house moved out and she moved in. I thought it would be my dream come true with my best friend and boyfriend living with me, what am idiot I was! The more problems she had with the roommate she was still seeing and the more she saw me and Dude doing well and developing a real relationships, the more she pulled away and became different.
The roommate she was seeing was also cheating on her and would bring other girls around in front of me when she wasn't home. I'd tell her and she'd alway make some excuse like "they're just friends" (really? Why's the door shut?) and he would continue just because he knew she'd believe him and call me a liar (lol looking back now) it was really fucked up because she eventually told me she was just tying to make their relationship like the one I was having with dude.
It got to the point where we hardly talked to each other and she was making lies up just to avoid me. Broke my heart because she was choosing a loser over someone who actually cared about her, over and over again. She moved away to vegas and I moved with dude to our own spot. It's been over 2 yrs that we've been dating now.
She now only hits my boyfriend to hang out and does not hit me up whatsoever. Last time she texted him she asked why they couldn't hang out with out me.
Lol