In my experience, formal “checking ins” to evaluate/reflect is a way to get couples to openly share how they feel in a constructive way, if that’s not something they do naturally. So via check ins, couples practice conflict resolution skills, emotional awareness, and emotional support skills such that hopefully over time those skills become habit and are used as issues present themselves, rather than just via formal check ins. So my advice would be to see formal check ins not as something to continue indefinitely, but as a way to practice relationship skills such that over time you’ll be able to discuss things as they happen and won’t need formal check ins…