I was also a result of baby trapping and found out from my narcissistic father who used to bring this up in fights when I was growing up. According to my late grandmother, my mother (who had me as a student) was so lazy, that she every time she would be left to babysit me (because my grandmother was doing 99% of everything), she would add cold water to the baby food because she didn't want to bother adding warm water. Even now she complains that "motherhood was extremely hard work and raising me was a Herculean task".

One of the reasons the CF stance needs to be accepted is that people like my mother who are egocentric and unfit to be parents, mainly have them because they cannot handle the criticism and bingos and want to fit in/gain status. Unfortunately, many people choose to be ignorant about the reality of parental narcissism and get upset when you try to educate them.

I am sorry this happened OP.