OP, I always said I never wanted kids. I just knew my entire life that that wasn't the path for me.

Then I meet this guy.. and he convinces me that my feelings are wrong. That once you have a kid it's so profoundly life changing, something you can't understand until you've experienced it. I mean, everyone says that right? How many people around you admit they don't want kids, or they regret having kids? For me, it was zero.

So I have a kid. And guess what? I love my kid more than anything. Everything they say is true. But - all my fears were also true. I hate being a mom. It's hard, and a lot of times life sucks. Having a kid put even more strain on my marriage and we are no longer together. The last decade has been so, so hard.

Things are better now, and I'm probably happier than I've ever been. But damn I had to learn some hard lessons. Learn from my story and skip the hard part - if you don't want kids, don't have them for someone else. It's too much to ask of yourself. Way too much.

P.S. this guy sounds like he sucks