Every time reddit asks for women to share their female perspective and I go for it they downvote me. I get it that I'm not the kind of woman the average redditor is compatible with, but it's really discouraging when they have zero respect for differences of opinion. I won't bother any more, they're not trying to understand they're only out to judge. You wouldn't take it personally, but you and I are not the same. I take it personally because this is a personal subject. If I was talking about something I know nothing about and I was factually wrong then yeah I wouldn't take it personally I would stand corrected. But this is my intimate life I'm opening up about, this is what I know more about than anything because it's me.

It makes total sense what you're saying but I don't think you've understood what I am saying. I'm not frustrated by it but it would be cooler if we could talk openly without me being erased. We can't though, because this is reddit and they erase what they can't relate to.

I hope I haven't given you the impression that I expect a relationship to be defined by sex or appearances alone, that's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying men who don't treat me like a woman don't get sex from me. Treating me like a woman doesn't mean treating me like I'm not a person, or being disrespectful. It means recognition and reverence, and being forthcoming and direct. It doesn't mean that every man who treats me like a woman is guaranteed to get what he's after. I'm just saying I am not at all moved by what I see as a tepid and roundabout approach.

I've had a short-lived relationship with a guy who had a similar attitude to you. We were friends for a while and decided to take it to the next level. We were young, I didn't know myself yet. It didn't work out and I realized only later it was because he never treated me like a woman even when we were having sex. He could never evoke that visceral, instinctive response that makes me feel a deep, ancient connection to what is really the essence of being female.