I never understand why people ask that.

Recently I was picking my daughter up from a birthday party, but the mom invited me in to have some food and hang out while the kids played a little longer. She has three children, and I have one. Anyway, this lady is clearly miserable, but seems to somehow believe that being miserable and having lots of kids is how it should be. I had to extricate myself from the conversation and her house when she wouldn't stop pestering me about why I won't have more.

I wanted to shout, "I love my daughter, she's just right, but I would rather stab my eyes out with a fork than have another! I'm looking forward to watching her grow up, but I can't stand babies! I want to scream at the very thought of extending my parenting years to THREE FUCKING DECADES! I got my tubes tied! AHHHHH!"

I think even a calm, "I got my tubes tied," would've made her faint and offended her terribly.

(Bonus: my husband is my daughter's step-dad. He loves my daughter like his own. But this lady actually said, "He won't be fully committed to you if you don't have his baby." LMAO. Husband found that hilarious when I told him later. The woman also happens to have grown so up in a poor Russian village, and my husband responded, "Yes, you must give me many sons -- how else shall we fight off the Cossacks?")