This will get buried, and it doesn't answer the question, (which is kinda why it should be buried, but I need to rant this.

I've never cheated on him (yet) and I really don't plan to. For context, we're both men, and we are planning to get married soon. But our libidos aren't in sync. He's also got erectile dysfunction, (which can be easily controlled by meds) but he's also not in the mood a lot; a testosterone thing. I like to be spontaneous, but that can't happen if you gotta take a pill an hour before hand. Also, (WARNING FOR PPL NOT INTO SAME SEX RELATIONS) he's a natural top, and I'm a bottom, but he's too large for me to take comfortably, so it's like I'm denying him what he wants most sexually. I hate not being able to give him this, but I just can't do it. Trust me, if I could I would; it would make him so happy!

So all that being said, we both jerk off a lot, being unable to really satisfy each other. There are times when I REALLY want to go out and get laid, but the thing that stops me is that I love him and I know he loves me, sexual compatibility or not. But damn the temptation has been there. We've kicked the idea of an open relationship around, and he says he would be ok with it, but I know it's not true. He's a VERY jealous type, and I know he's saying it just to keep me happy, but he's not a fool, and he (obviously) knows about our sexual hang ups. I don't want to cheat because I know it would kill him on the inside, and I don't want to cheat because he's my man and I want to be faithful and continue being his man, but goddam I've been offered some opportunities, which I've been very tempted with. Also, being monogamous, there's no need for protection since we're at no risk (we've both been tested) for STD'S, but if I were to cheat (even with protection) it would put him at risk, which is absolutely not fair to him.

End rant.