I recently found out I am going through early menopause. I’m late 30s. It made me realise that I want a child, I thought I had more time…. I am waiting on an appointment re this.

A very close friend who has been trying6/ 7 years has told me she is 8 weeks gone. It’s a risky pregnancy given her medal situation so they will not announce anything until a significant period has passed. I cried when she told me, I was sad for myself of course but happy for her. I have learned over the years that comparing ourselves to others only makes us miserable. It’s a very hard habit to break but it is possible. When we are in a better place emotionally I hear that pregnancy becomes more frequent. This was the case for my pal, after 3 rounds of iui and a few ivf rounds they had taken a break and she reset emotionally.

She then got pregnant naturally.

What I’m saying is it’s completely normal and natural to feel like you do, but I wonder if more of us tried not to consciously compare ourselves to others I think the world would be easier for everyone. I hope you are ok op x I promise you are not struggling alone. Love x