This is the "problem" with my sister's ex. In her case the man really needs to go to jail. He's a psychopath with a violent history. He married my sister when she was 18 and he was over twice her age and her boss (he has grown up daughters older than my sister) She admits now how stupid she was, but this was his MO, and we found out later he'd done it seven other times (told my sister only two other marriages when they wed) and had god knows how many children. Multiple warrants out for unpaid child support from multiple women he'd basically abandoned. The man's a leech who's own mother has repudiated him, and written to the court in support of my sister's custody battle. He married her as retirement plan, and won't get a real job because only he can take care of the autistic son they have (no true, I can take care of him) while my sister has to work all day every day to support. He refuses to leave their rented house despite the divorce which is a year old now, he pays no rent and wont let my sister move to a community with more resources for mu nephew (there's simply nothing out where they live) and near the rest of the family (in the early part of the marriage he completely isolated her from us); hence her custody case.

On top of it, he steels her mail, engages in financial fraud (opened credit accounts with my sisters info after the divorce! racked up debt, hid bills, and even told an agent of the court my sister had abandoned them and didn't live there... she works all day, he tried to kick her out of the home she pays for, and lied to her family about it too).

Right now we all hope his outstanding warrants from Indiana will get transferred to our state because that would lose him the custody and my sister could move closer to the family and closer to real treatments in our metro area for my nephew.