We actually did have a long talk yesterday. I had mentioned it a few times but I think he needed to tall to a trusted friend to really understand what was going on. He didn't know it makes me feel unattractive so I was honest about that.

I haven't wanted to hurt his feelings because I know I a sensitive topic but I was starting to spiral into the is he cheating? Does he even want to be with me? cycle.

So here we go::

1- Yes. Absolutely. As long as it really is medically related and not a relationship issue I am 1000% more concerned about his health.

My main conflict is he has given several reasons ans never addresses doing anything about it or does anything about it, so I did start to feel like it was excuses.

2 - For years? No. I would definitely need to have some kind of intimacy. If you're barely going to kiss someone, why be in a relationship? You can be best friends. Or maybe have an open relationship, I don't know. I'm hoping it doesn't get to that point.

3- We did speak about it a couple of times, but yesterday was the first time I REALLY told him how it was impacting me mentally.

4- No resentment at all. Mostly self doubt.

I'm so glad you and your hubby worked it out. He does see a doctor but is such a procrastinator about bringing up actual medical issues. I think I mentioned in another comment he could be dying and he would just say well I cut my finger can I have a band aid? Your hair is on fire maybe address that first. That kind of patient.