You will regret not exploring your dark side. Most Doms know exactly what they want and they know how to communicate it. These relationships won’t work otherwise. A good Dom will be patient with you and consider it an honor to introduce you to his world. No one comes in saying tie me up, slap me in the face, and spit in my mouth. We are all sub-lite to start ;) He will push limits in a safe way.

I’ve said it before, rough sex is easy to find. Wannadoms are everywhere. Finding someone you can be friends with and trust enough for a true D/s relationship is challenging. Fetlife and talking to others in the lifestyle help. Local clubs and munches.