Yeah the relationship makes it all uncomfy.

I haven't said anything to them about her so unless they are noticing things it's not been an added stressor for them. My issues with her related to nk I'm not sure they even notice. Like Nk has a toddler table that I will sit at with them and even when I pick up the chairs before I leave she won't always vacuum underneath it. I also have a couple activities we do where where have to move the couch back a foot. Betsy used to clean under the couch but stopped a few months ago so when I push it back there's tons of crumbs/pet hair etc that I have to clean if I want to do said activities

I'm sure the thought and process of having to find someone new sounds stressful so maybe thats why they haven't really considered it. I've worked with a handful of services with past nfs here so if be happy to help them find someone