This is all from the same BTW, I just want to dissect piece by piece.
Listen up Bluepill because you missed it the first 45 times I said it: We are at MRP because we LOVE our wife. We want a good relationship with her based on respect and passion.
"Respect". Yes, red pill "respects" women. Truthfully, I respect red pillers too. I mean, they are stupid as all hell, completely guided by emotionally, generally less valuable, and need to be cared for an lead, as they are unable to care for themselves. But yeah, I, uh, "respect" them. I think I speak for all of TBP when I say that we "respect" twerps every bit as much as they respect their wives. Nothing but love, twerps, nothing but love and respect.
We want her to stop making our every waking moment a living hell on Earth...
You know, sometimes I don't think they are all that loving and respectful of their wives...
It IS condescending and perhaps it is insulting. However it is NOT cruel or rude. In fact it is enormously comforting for most women to be able to rely on a strong man.
It is insulting, it is rude. And depending on the context, yes it can be cruel. Some people absolutely need to feel like they are capable in order to feel self-worth. If you treat them and either imply are explicitly tell them that they can never be that capable, functioning adult they might find themselves in a bad place. That would be cruel. Up next is a new guy
Personally, my respect for my wife dropped significantly once I started learning more RP ideas.
And this guy needs to have a chat with the first guy about the "respecting your wife" bit. Ah, let's face it, they don't respect their wives. I doubt any full blown twerp respects his wife as an individual and a human being. Only as some kind of half human, half dog hybrid that deserves love but is still below you.
More from the OP:
An update:...She expressed, all the while very calmly, that she is angry about many things, the biggest of which are her issues with our marriage. For example, I: Treat her like a child (she is one)...
WOAH! Hold the fucking phone, are you telling me that your marriage is failing because, among other reasons, you treat your wife like a child?! She must be mistaken, as that is fundamental RP advice, and RP men know how women feel better than women. Silly feeeemale, thinking that she doesn't like being treated like a child.
She responded with, "See, you think your can decide for us that the coversation is over. I need comfort." I hugged her, kissed her cheek, then saw her on her way.
Brilliant. She comes to you openingly, honestly, and calmly (and let's be honest, if you are meet with this "amused mastery" crap I think most people would be pissed), tells you what is wrong. You then continue to do what she told you was destroying your marriage (ending the conversation for her and treating her like a child). She tells you that she wants comfort, and so you give her some cheap comfort and sent her on her way. Yeah, still not feeling the love. She is probably going to leave you, because she needs to change away from the red pill man you are. Thing is, you are convinced that being the red pill man is the only way to save it. Sadly, you'll soon be alone.
Btw, all these nonsense she is throwing at you is female solipsism. You have very good reasons to need your space and support. But she can't internalize that because she is a woman, and all she understands is that you aren't making her feel how she wants. AWALT. I think she made it very clear at the end when she admitted this was just her fucked up way of getting "comfort" for you (instead of giving YOU comfort for your loss). AWALT. It is the same with very small children, before they can internalize that others have needs as well. If I was sick or tired, my son would sometimes act up, have tantrums, just make everything so much more difficult. It is because they can't understand the needs of others beyond their heads. But they know that if they throw a tantrum, it makes you come stop the tantrum. It is strange, but this is their immature way to make you stronger: they act up in a fit to force you to show them your strength. The same happens with women. I think it is because women can be submissive-feminine, or they can be motherly, but not both at the same time. So when they think we need support, either they become a Mother to us, which makes them lose attraction and resent us, or it makes them become a fucking crazy bitch to make us submit them. There is no in between, and in neither of those they consider our feelings. It is different for men. When men provide comfort, we do it like an Oak, like a father figure, that is strong, leads and has things in control. It is unified.
And just to wrap up with some good old sexism.