I didn't see your first thread, but I thought a suggestion could help. I had a coworker a few years back who was the over sharing type, and she happened to tell me one day that she finally found a solution to her pain during sex. She and her boyfriend could not successfully complete intercourse because she'd get this pain so badly. She'd been to more than one doctor for it, and after several tries, a nurse in a new doctor's office she was trying finally made the suggestion for a medication to try during her visit and got the doctor to prescribe it. I wish I could be more helpful by remembering the name, but it was a cream that she'd dab right at her vaginal opening before sex, and it would numb that burning, skin stretching sensation she got. Even if this isnt the answer for you, it still demonstrates how getting multiple opinions and pushing doctors for more creative solutions beyond the common, go-to suggestions can help you. I have had a couple partners with vaginismus issues. There seemed to be a common problem where they felt too tight and weren't stretching out enough. One of them was able to enjoy penetration in only two positions: her lying on top and making me lay with my legs and butt flat on the bed and still. She would set her thighs on top of mine, and move up and down. It let her control the pace, it was an angle that didn't put too much pressure on her on the inside, and she was able to rub her outside area against me. Usually cowgirl has the girl straddling the guy, and he moves his hips to speed up the action. She also liked missionary where I wasn't pulling in and out and making deep thrusts, but entering, lying over her and just doing short, quick thrusts, where again, we were rubbing against one another on the outside. It also allowed me to kiss her and i think that could also help her loosen up a bit. Sometimes you have to try slightly different angles then what is more common. I think this will be a million times easier for you if you tell him. Then he can hopefully allow you to try some of this stuff.