What are some things you didn’t realize about people until your perspective on life matured?

How absolutely horrible my mom is. I always thought "well she was beaten as a kid, so I could have it worse." but now I know she has been pumping that fact into my head my entire life as an excuse to yell at me every single day. Everything has to be a big argument with her. "Why haven't you done the dishes?" well it was my sisters turn, so I assumed she would do it once she got home, but no that becomes a 20 minute argument where I keep telling her "I AM DOING IT, I AM ALMOST DONE WITH THE DISHES" and she keeps yelling at me that I live at home for free and Im an adult, I need to take responsibility for my own mistakes, while she can yell at me for hours about something I didn't do, then get proof that I am innocent, and jsut go about her day angry at me for arguing with her, never apologizing for immediately blaming me.

I am an anxious depressed emotional wreck because of her and her constant yelling. 21 years I've had to listen to her bullshit. she brings it up at family gatherings like "my kids are such typical teens with selective hearing" no you actual cunt, I'm about to look like an unstable maniac in front of the entire family as I tell you for the 100th time I wasnt even at home the day you announced our great aunt had died, I didn't jsut ignore you when you told me, you never fucking told me.

Everything is an argument. As a kid I thought I must be in the wrong, because my mom can do nothing wrong. Turns out having 5 kids by 40, the oldest being half her age, means she was never ready to have kids. She should never have had kids, she put us all through this emotional rollercoaster jsut so she can get brownie points for raising as many kids as her mom did...

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