Meh, i'm not only talking about health. I'm talking about everything that involves becoming a better person. Learning new things, new experiences. Just making something of yourself.
But health, or rather weight, seems to be your constant focus. To go back to the person you were arguing with, you know absolutely nothing about him other than the fact that he started training martial arts to lose weight.
You don't know if he's 15 lbs overweight or if he's 300 lbs overweight. You don't know if he's an unemployed bum or a successful business man. You don't know if he's illiterate or fluent in 15 languages. You don't know if he's never been outside of the town he was born in, or if he's traveled the world.
The only thing you know is that he's got a few pounds too many. You haven't even seen a picture of him. Yet that was more than enough to start insulting him.
You claim that you started a subreddit for self improvement, but everything I see in it indicates that its purpose is to mock people who are fat. You may not be as obvious as /r/fatpeoplehate, but you certainly seem to share their ideology.
"Bitter" i'd say fits better.
I don't think either one of them seems bitter either. AdmiralAtLaw I actually happen to know, as he is a former colleague of my SO. He's a very successful professional with an internationally recognized career. I think in the eyes of almost everyone, he would be someone they look up to. Yet you and your friend seemed quick to dismiss anything he had to say as jealousy, based on... Well, not much to be honest.
I see it all the time, so it's not something new to me.
But that's the problem isn't it, you're so hellbent on seeing it, that you see it where it doesn't exist. It's confirmation bias.
And almost every single time i have someone rage at me, or throw a fit over something i've said, a quick skim through his history shows that the person is completely miserable.
Well, based on the two people you've argued with, nocendi and AdmiralAtLaw, explain to me how they are miserable? I do not get that impression from either one of them.
That's why i never take people like these seriously.
You kind of sound like an early 20s jock. Arrogant, dismissive and patronizing. That might seem very cool to you at this point, but chances are good you'll grown out of it.
They dismiss the hard work required to become something.
Both of the people you have argued with here seems to have become very successful in their careers. They might not prioritize fitness as highly as you do, but that's not the same as not becoming anything.
Hell, I'm a physician and know very well the consequences of unhealthy lifestyles, and I'm not sure I am as concerned with fitness as you are. That's not to say there's anything wrong with your focus, just that your personal goals are not necessarily everyone else's.
Just because you think your BMI is the alpha and omega of existence doesn't mean everyone else does. And it doesn't mean that you are right; and they are wrong.
You just HAVE to be a douchebag or something. Just see how many people that assumes that just because someone is fit, they are either stupid or an asshole.
But nobody does that. The reason people assume you're an asshole isn't because you're fit, it's because your attitude is screaming: I am fit, and since you're not, you're a fucking miserable loser.
People think you're an asshole because everything you write indicates that you actually are.
They are promoting negative atmospheres that is actively hurting not themselves but others. They are advocating for people to fail and be as miserable as they are.
I think I can count on a single hand the amount of people I've met in my life who are advocating unhealthy lifestyles, or are in any way glorifying it. 'Fat acceptance' is sort of like Tumblr-feminists; they're actually very few and far between in real life, they just get an inordinate amount of attention on reddit.