. She might have been saying she was available, but expected you to actually step up and ask her on a date
OP take note. This is the type of woman you don't want to have a relationship with. Relationships are about mutual effort. Any adult woman incapable of stating interest and blaming you for it is better off pursued by some other poor sod.
Since you asked "where?", you were assuming she was asking YOU out. A lot of woman don't like that
OP, you deserve a woman that values you. This is the attitude of someone that sees themselves as doing you a favor. A mature adult woman should totally be capable of answering a simple question like "where".
it's not very attractive because it shows that the man isn't prepared and isn't much of a leader,
OP a lot of women talk a big game. A lot of women think they "deserve" this or that quality. One of my favorite rap lyrics is "Her name Mercedes, she want a lexus, but she drives a ford focus".
Don't let a woman demanding a list of "qualities" draw attention away from the fact she has nothing to offer.
and most of all... that he just isn't that into it.
This is a myth perpetuated by women who are scared of getting rejected up front the way men often are. Or women, like this one, who need to be pursued.
You don't need women who needs to be pursued. There are plenty of men that spend their romantic lives chasing. And some who enjoy it. There are also women willing to be adults and put in equal effort. One type is definitely better than the other.
Im free on Saturday if you'd like to get together." "Okay! Can I take you out for dinner at xyz?"
Lastly, OP, what do YOU, want? If you constantly date with what they want it will be sssoooo shitty. It's not fun that way.
So while you will be initiating most if not all interactions, what YOU want is most important. Don't wait because they want to. Just find a woman who wants what you want.
P.S.- a lot of the ones you'll pursue aren't worth it. If you have sex it's lame, because they think you need to do everything. If you get into a relationship with them you'll feel taken for granted.
Much more fun when she kows what to do sexually, what she likes in a partner, and is willing to meet you halfway. Do not ever let a woman get away with the mentality this person is spewing.
You know what we call it when you have standards which require clear communication and equality of effort???? SELF-RESPECT lol.