I think it would be equally as shitty if he claimed the same while he wasn't doing anything. Usually when people say "we earn" It's a combination of both of them but she's not even contributing. Staying at home with a bunch of kids is a whole job in and of itself and she should take pride in that because it cannot be easy, just like he could feel the same before.

But it's just weird to say "we" earn when she's not contributing anything at all.

The problem here is you guys are all assigning her value as a human to money and you're jumping down my throat because of it. That's on you I don't see that as the value of a human. Literally just pointing out an incorrect use of a phrase.