A little back story..My in laws are the complete opposite of my upbringing. Different culture, different religion, different languages spoken, etc. From the get go it was kinda awkward with them, but I tried. I didn't really know when I first met them that there was a lot of things going on in the family, including depression, family abuse, etc. Didn't take long for me to be a target, everything always wrong with what I did or who I was. Was extremely hard to form a bond with either of my spouse's parents between that culture barrier and the language barrier.
Anyways.. Somehow they figured out that my spouse (then boyfriend) and I were having intercourse before marriage. Things went crazy, all the siblings dropped us like flies, we weren't talked to and not invited to events.. And my husband's niece was like 2yrs old and was having random bedtime nightmare and problems sleeping and they blamed it on me and said I was the devil.. Though I had not even spent more then a few hours meeting the kids. Somehow family friends even a few provinces away heard about it and shamed us. It got pretty nasty. My mother in law cornered us one day, wanting to talk about it, and she actually slapped me across the face. I don't know much of what happened in the yelling match that followed since it was not spoken in English, but from what I do recall afterwards and my spouse translating it for me was that his Mom was so upset and sad/depressed that our actions were enough to make her want to go drown herself at the river/bridge nearby.
It was completely crazy to me to hear this and process it. I didn't know what to say or do. It was our own decision to do intercourse before marriage, I was in my mid 20's and my husband was in his mid 30's at the time! I know he had some talks with his mom, religious ones, etc. But I was completely shunned from it all. Naturally I spoke to a 'friend' about the subject and told her what happened, but she wasn't much of a 'friend' and gossiped about it at work and made it a huge story with many false things said.. And my in-laws worked at the same place and heard about it. So things got worse when mother in law heard about it, plus the fake stuff that she believed I said about her. Ugh, it was a nasty situation.
They ended up moving away shortly after things happened, space and distance helped fix things over the years, but still to this day I can't quite fit in, and it always leaves me feeling like I am on eggshells the whole time.