I am fucking everywhere, but I'm not going to approach you at the market, or a park, or my fictitious nephew's little league game, and try to sleaze my way into your well coordinated outfit.

I have most of what I'm looking for figured out on my end. I'm perfectly capable of being alone indefinitely. I don't need you, but It'd be great to have you around. I'm not actively trying to impress you at every turn. I'm also not about to turn part of my daily function into an uncomfortable affair. What if I see you every day during my routine? Fuck that noise.

I might stare a little, but I'm just trying to see if that kid's yours. Is that a tattoo indicating a dealbreaking ideology that you're subscribed to? Are you married? Are you even in my age group? Is that your husband, roommate, token gay friend you're shopping with maybe?

We're going to walk past each other. I'm going to initiate a "Good Morning", and then I'm getting on with my day. This is just how it is.

But y'know what'd be totally fine? Start an actual conversation with me. I'm loaded with hobbies and interests that I'd probably blather at you about without even realizing what's happening. I bet you have neato interests also.

Shit, chances are I checked the weather report this morning. Ask me about my routine. Maybe join me in my present activity! I'd wander the store with an attractive stranger. Maybe try to schedule another run-in later.

Wanna' blow my mind? Offer me a means of contact. Friend me on facebook. Write down your Kik/Snapchat/WHATEVER handle on a napkin. Fucking anything that lets me know you're single and interested in seeing me again.

We're out there, but you have to understand that we don't want someone to take home for a night. We want someone we can integrate into our life. If you want a long-term guy, you're gonna' have to put in some work too. I have an entire life to keep up on, and I'm not about to drop everything every weekend to come to your fucking downtown office during your appointed hours, buy you a beer, and have an interview.

TL;DR You fundamentally misunderstand. We're fucking everywhere, but you need to find a way to integrate your life with ours successfully. That's just how long-term works.