My brother was abusing drugs, abusing my mother financially and physically when he lost control. Mom originally pressed charges and walked it back.

I told him, you aren't seeing me or my kids until you do the following.

Live somewhere else, not with Mom.

Get clean.

Don't let me mom let you off the hook, and plead guilty to the abuse.

He said he wasn't guilty so he wouldn't (i had mountains of evidence he was, police said it didn't matter if she dropped charges).

It told him the path he was on would kill him if he didn't get off it, and he had to do those things.

He had a stroke within the week. He had crack cocaine in his system.

He was brain damaged for months and then he got worse and they pulled the cord.