Long distance. One day she texted me something completely-not-subtle-whatsoever like, "Babe. I think I have a problem with thinking of people who slow me down as leeches."
I instantly text, "Is there something you want to talk about?"
and get met with a text that's basically her saying "Just thinking of other stuff out loud. Sorry. :) "
Another week later, I get "Babe. I'm awful at keeping in contact with people I don't see for a long time! What's wrong with me?"
I try once again. "We're dating long distance... Is there something on your mind?"
I get brushed off again.
Then, twice the following week she apologizes to me.
Her: "Babe! I haven't texted you in like 2 hours! How do you put up with me?"
Me: "It's fine???? Text me when you're not busy. You kick ass."
Her again: "It's been 4 hours since I texted you! I'm so sorry!"
Me once again: "And it's been 40 days since we saw each other. When's Lent over?"
Then she calls me that night and says "I think I want to focus on myself for a while and not date anyone for a long, long [sic] time."
I immediately say, "That kind of sounds like bullshit."
We argue. I type a long book of a goodbye mixed in with my explanation when she asks me why that sounds like bullshit. It's a mistake. i type way too fucking much. I look like the crazy, clingy boyfriend, when really I'm having a break up conversation for two people when I should have just done myself a favor and had 0 conversation with 0 people and relaxed with some music or something.
She sees the whirlwind of 2-3 700 character text messages with 2-3 different topics between them and tells me "Calm down before you hurt yourself."
I knew it was over at that point, because word vomit or not that was the most unjustifiably patronizing and condemning thing anyone has probably ever said to me. But she asks, and I keep explaining why I think she's not being honest with me. I get every other cliche in the book. I get "I'm not sure if I'm over my ex." I get "you deserve someone who loves you." I get "I think you fell in love with me too quickly." I get "Maybe we'll see each other again some day."
I asked her bluntly thee times. "You said you're not good at keeping in contact with people. Should we keep talking even as friends, or are you going to just fade on me? I want to know if you're going to even give it a shot."
By the third time I repeated my question, she told repeated all of the stuff she said before (dodging my question) and added an "It's not you, it's me"
So I told her to go fuck herself.
She stopped talking to me.
About a month later I see her on social media talking about getting ghosted on by a guy who she went on a few dates with and talked to for a couple of weeks. (Again: Just over one month after us breaking up.) I let her know I saw it. Very dumb on my part, but hey... I got closure from it.
Another month later, I remember that we had both made a mutual friend while we were dating, and she had that friend's number. I asked her if she had spoken to the friend, and told her that if she didn't talk to the friend that I would like to just in order to see how the friend was doing. (It was a lesbian girl with a girlfriend... I don't think it looked too petty or anything.) I get nothing.
Still probably won't ever hear from that girl ever again. It's a shame. It was a good relationship up until she stopped actually communicating her feelings with me two or three weeks before she broke up with me.