People naturally like to focus on their differences rather than what they share in common. Even when those differences are so superficial and insignificant. Perhaps it makes them feel special and unique in some way which is an increasingly difficult thing to feel in a world with 7 billion plus people. It's no different with men and women. We like to focus on the miniscule differences on the service rather than focus on the fact that by virtue of being humans, we are already more alike than not, and in a much more profound way.

I think a huge issue here is rensenment. I stated in another comment how the root of our gender issues is in centuries old patriarchal traditions of our society and the expectations and roles it designates for both men and women. Men, being the dominate sex, the one in charge, the strong provider, the aggressor. Women being the vulnerable sex, the homemaker and child carer, the passive and emotional one.

Initially it was women who were opressed in our society, and it has taken many decades of fighting to achieve the equal status that we share with men today. Still though, these ideas of what men and women ought to be are so deeply ingrained in our culture. Women may feel resentment about how they are percieved in society, and they either internalize that towards their own gender, or they will project that resentment on to men and even go so far as to villify them.

The pendulum has swung in the other direction however as our current society seems to disproportionately focuses on and address issues that concern women, while making men feel they are to blame and should have to apologize for being men. They're encouraged to be sex animals constantly chasing after woman, and at the same time are shamed for it; and when they resent being placed into this box, men are told to "man up" and not be a "pussy" when it comes to expressing their pain. So men in this position will either internalize this or project their resentment onto women, the latter which I feel a lot of men in those red pill type communites do. And these issues are exactly the same that society causes for women, only in a reverse manner. As someone else said in another comment responding to mine, it's a lot like the concept of an equal but opposite reaction. "Woman sex objects that should feel shame for having sex and men are sex crazed animals that should feel shame for being that way, but if they don't act that then they are not a real man."

The resentment and internalized hatred felt amongst both genders runs deep, but until we can openly discuss the greivances of both sides rather than placing some sort of blame on one and victimizing the other, I don't see any further improvement being made; just more finger pointing.

I'd like to hear what your opinions are on the matter, I'm always excited when someones up for a civil and genuine discussion on gender