Who is childfree?

1) a. Are step-parents childfree?

No. They ceased being child-free when they entered into a parenting role. You're now their/extra mother or father figure who will either be permanent or only married to their bio parent for awhile.

b. What if the step "kids" are grown?

Age doesn't matter here for me. Kids can always come back. They'll always have your spouse for their parent.

c. What if they were step-parents, but later broke up?

They can resume their child-free status, but it's a bit shitty to parade around if the step-child managed to bond with them and still desires contact.

d. What if they're in a relationship with someone who is a parent and that parent has zero custody or involvement?

If the parent has no rights to said child, Childfree. If the parent is just a deadbeat parent, Childfree who is dating an asshole.

2) a. Are people who are open to being foster parents childfree?

No. You're entering a parenting role that is extremely vital for many of the children in foster care. To call yourself child-free while giving them a fighting chance for a good life is awful. You can explain all you want but they'll feel unwanted, a burden, and resent you for not being able to love them, etc.

b. Are people who actually are foster parents childfree?

Nope. Foster mom and foster dad, if they can adopt, then foster child is their newly legal child.

c. What if they did this at some point in the past, but no longer do?

Not childfree. Many Foster children who age up in good and loving foster homes, if not legally adopted by said foster family, often adopt that foster family as their real family. You raised them, guided them and taught them. You are their parents.

3) a. Are people who are open to taking in their younger siblings or sibling's kids or other children in the family childfree?

No. There was a post of an Aunt who saved her niece. To abandon the child a second time by declaring them as temporary thing, would be too sad.

b. Would they be childfree if they actually did this?

Nope.

c. What if they did this at some point in the past, but no longer do?

They can resume being childfree. I feel their title as relative overrides and they fall into the mother/father figure role more than actually being that role.

d. What if custody was only temporary?

They may resume being childfree.

4) a. Are people who have a baby but give it up for adoption childfree?

Depends. Did they want the baby but couldn't care or provide for it? If yes, then no they're not. They're parents who have a baby out there they gave up for a better chance. If they were opposed to abortion and never planned to keep it, yes they're still childfree.

b. Are women who do this childfree?

Depends on the same as above.

c. What about men?

Same as women.

d. What if the man never even knew about it?

If he wanted the baby and wanted a relationship with his child, he's a dad missing his child and was never given a fair chance. If he's fine with it, Childfree.

5) a. Are people who had a baby which died in infancy childfree?

If they planned to raise and keep the baby, no. If they were picking a family to adopt out and never wanted the baby, childfree.

b. What if it died shortly after delivery or was stillborn?

Same as the others. If they didn't want it but were going to raise it out of some sort of feeling obligated to, they're not childfree.

c. What if it was a miscarriage of a pregnancy that was intended to be carried to term?

Depends on what they wanted to carry to term for. Adoption, yes still childfree. To raise and keep, no.

d. What if it was a miscarriage of a pregnancy that would have been aborted anyway?

If abortion was the intention but the event happened before it could take place, yes still CF.

e. What if any of the above happened, but the intention was to give it up for adoption?

Still CF in my opinion. Now, if in any of these pregnant questions they got pregnant on purpose with absolute intent, they're not childfree no matter the income. The baby was intentional.

f. For any of the above, what about a man who never knew about the baby or the pregnancy?

If wanted, not child free. If ok and didn't want, then childfree.

6) What about host families for foreign exchange students?

Teachers for a cultural learning experience. Still childfree.

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