I’m like this guy*... which is kind of funny cause I’m gay.. and the stereotype is that we’re all nice dressers... lol.

I have never worn a suit in my life. I feel incredibly self conscious in anything other than jeans and t-shirt. The best you can expect from me is kakis and a nice shirt— but even then, I’ll be stressed out until I’m back in my regular clothes. It’s incredibly uncomfortable, not physically, but psychologically. It’s hard to explain why, and I wish it wasn’t the case. The best I can describe it is that it feels like lying, like I’m an imposter and everybody sees through me. I feel like a total fraud. Its totally irrational, but it’s near panic attack inducing. Makeup — like Halloween makeup— makes me feel the same way. My mom tried once when I was a kid and I had a meltdown.

• unlike this guy, I don’t really enjoy standing out, either, so I just don’t go to these types of events. I have declined better paying jobs that require me to wear anything more than casual,.. I just wont do it and would rather take a pay hit. I generally don’t go to weddings... funerals.. because of this.

So I kinda get where this guy is coming from. I’m guessing it’s something similar. The mental discomfort just isn’t worth it.